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My Husband Is Showing Obvious Signs Of Guilt After His Affair. How Should I React To This?
"I'll be honest. I like that my husband is hurting after his affair. I like that he feels awful about it and thinks poorly of himself. He deserves all of these feelings. But sometimes, his guilt leaks into the whole house. Don't get me wrong. He should feel guilty. He lied to me, to his mother, and to our kids. But it's almost painful to watch. He walks around all slumped over and looking like he's going to cry at any minute. If we go to a restaurant, he will order salad and water. He will say that he deserves nothing more. If our kids try to show him affection, he will burst into tears and say that he doesn't deserve their love. He spends money that we really don't have buying me guilt gifts. So I'm not quite sure how I feel about this. On one hand, he should feel guilty. On the other hand, he's a drag to be around. At some point, he's going to have to meet me like an equal if we're going to save our marriage. And he acts as if he almost can't bear to talk to me. How should I handle this?"